Moving during a difficult time

As we all know, and most of us have experienced at least once, moving, at the best of times, is difficult. So, when you add the extra emotional stress of a major life change, such as a divorce, death or economic crisis, a move can be a breaking point.

The hard part is, many people have to move – as opposed to wanting to – because of the reasons above. Feeling that they don’t have a choice in their decision to move, many feel that their lives are spinning out of control.

If you’re in this situation, and a move is something you must do, then there are some tips to consider to help you through this extremely difficult time. And remember, you’re not just moving into a new home, you’re moving into a new life.


Take What You Need

After the death of my mother, I was at such a loss. With a house full of memories surrounding me, I didn’t know where to turn. All I knew was that I had to make some decisions.

Usually, when someone is moving, I suggest that they get rid of everything they haven’t used in the last year to minimize the amount of stuff they have to move. For people who are going through an emotional trauma as well as a move, I suggest the opposite.

When emotions are involved, our personal things tend to comfort us and make us feel more secure, especially when our lives feel like they are anything but secure. Take what you need to help you get through. If you’re having a hard time making a decision about whether to move something or not, move it and make the decision at a later time when you feel ready.

When it came time to sort through my mother’s clothes, I couldn’t do it. Each time I opened her closet, I cried for hours at a time. Finally, I asked a neighbor for help. She kindly folded my mother’s clothes into large containers that I then labeled and set aside. Those clothes moved with me across the country then down to California. I finally, when I was ready, went through them, piece by piece. I donated most of her clothes to local charities, keeping just a few sweaters that I know I’ll grow into one day.

Even though I was a very poor student at the time, I made the choice to do only what I could emotionally do. And even though it cost me more money to ship the extra containers, I’m glad that I did.

The last word on this is, do what you have to do to get through.


Try Not to Make Rash Decisions

My moving habits are pretty established by now, and it’s taken me a while to be able to step back and not make rash decisions based on how I might feel emotionally. While it’s good to listen to your feelings, throwing out the dishwasher because it was your ex-partner bought it for you for your anniversary, may not make the most economical sense…although, selling it might!

Before you throw out everything attached to a bad memory (the opposite of the first tip), step back and consider if it’s something you really can’t live with. If you can’t – you really can’t – get rid of it.

I only caution making decisions out of spite. Usually, those decisions end up being regretted. If, however, you can’t stand to look at something because it conjures up difficult emotions and you know you’d feel better if that object was out of your life, then by all means, sell it, donate it or junk it.


Ask for Help

Our pride can be such a hindrance sometimes, making us feel like we should be able to handle the situation on our own. As I’ve said before, moving is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do – moving into a new life, is even tougher. So, don’t feel embarrassed to ask for help. People around you often feel so helpless as they watch you struggle through that asking them to do something for you can not only help you, but can make them feel useful, too. Everyone wins!

So, if you need some tasks done, or you need help packing or sorting things (like the neighbor who kindly sorted my mother’s clothes) or you need a babysitter, ask your friends, family and neighbors.

If you’re having a hard time making a decision about the move or about the choices you’re about to make, talk it out with a friend or counselor – someone who has your best interest at heart. Professional help is always such a support during times like this; they can help clarify your situation and assist you in making some difficult decisions.


Be Good to Yourself

Starting a new life is emotionally and physically draining. Be good to yourself during this time. If you’re tired, sleep; if you’re wanting time alone, give it to yourself. Go get your hair styled or get a massage or take some time to watch a movie or two, even if you feel like there’s so much to do. By giving yourself what you need, you’re allowing yourself to heal.

Remember, you’re going to feel tired, exhausted and drained. That’s part of the process, so stop being hard on yourself, ask for help, and talk it out to someone. And above all, take a deep breath, hug your kids and know that your life will get better – it just takes time.



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How to pack plates and flatware.

An easy step-by-step guide to packing plates and flatware to ensure they arrive at their destination in one piece.
Difficulty: Easy
Time Required: Indefinite

Here’s How:

  1. Choose a medium size box and line it with an extra large sheet of bubble wrap. Make sure the bubble wrap is large enough that it spills outside the box and completely covers the inside including the bottom.
  2. Place a stack of plain newsprint on the table. The sheets should be large enough to accommodate the plates or object you need to pack.
  3. Place the first plate in the center of the top sheet and fold one corner of the sheet over the plate until it’s completely covered.
  4. Take the next plate and place it on top of the first plate. Wrap the remaining three corners of the plain newsprint sheet over the second plate.
  5. Secure the newsprint with packing tape.
  6. Place the two plates in the box on their side. Plates should never be packed flat. If the box encounters any kind of force, plates on their edge can sustain a lot more pressure.
  7. Continue wrapping and placing the plates in the box until the box it tightly packed.
  8. Fold in the edges of the bubble wrap so the plates are covered and protected. If there is room remaining in the box, place linens or towels on top of the plates before sealing the box.
  9. Mark the box “Fragile”, list the items on the outside and their location: “Kitchen” or “Dining Room”.


  1. Place heavier items on the bottom; lighter items on top.
  2. If you don’t have bubble wrap, use linens or towels as cushioning.
  3. The box you use shouldn’t be too big. Remember, the maximum weight should be 50 lbs.

What You Need

  • Medium size box
  • Sheets of plain newsprint
  • Packing tape
  • Bubble wrap
  • Marker
  • Dinner plates, butter plates, serving plates or saucers

How much storage do you need?

Question: How Much Storage Do I Need?

A woman emailed me to ask how much storage she’ll need for her one-bedroom apartment. She’s moving overseas and needs to keep it in a safe place for an undefined time. She also has some items that are valuable and is concerned about leaving them behindTo answer both questions, here’s a guide to storage size and security.
Answer: First, let’s tackle storage size. The sizes below are pretty standard for most companies. Some companies can accommodate what you need by rearranging movable walls. (Note: the measurements below are represented as L x W x H in feet)

  • 5 x 5 x 10 = Small items, boxes, books, etc…
  • 5 x 10 x 10 = Small 1 bedroom home
  • 10 x 10 x 10 = 1 bedroom home
  • 10 x 15 x 10 = 2-3 bedroom home
  • 10 x 20 x 10 = 3-4 bedroom home
  • 10 x 30 x 10 = 5-7 bedroom home

I always recommend that you check out the storage facility in person, ask to see the space then gather as much information as you can. Storage professionals are really good at assessing the size you might need even if you have a hard time judging the space required.

For the second question, just like movers, you need to thoroughly investigate a storage company. Make a list of companies, check their records with the Better Business Bureau, ask friends, colleagues and relatives their experience with storage companies, then conduct your own assessment. Set up a time to inspect the facilities, ask questions, take notes; you can also contact the local police department to see if there have been any reported incidences. I also recommend visiting the storage facility during off hours, for example, on a weekend or in the evenings and talk to staff.

Finally, if possible, ask a friend to check on your things from time to time while you’re away. Give them a list of items you’re storing, and arrange for them to have access to the storage unit.


Tips for moving during the holidays

After a move, whether you’ve lived in your new home for a few months or a few weeks before the holidays, you’ll still miss familiar surroundings. Most of all, you’ll miss family and friends and group celebrations. It’s not easy being away from those you love, even if it’s just a state away. It’s difficult, and sometimes even more difficult for those who move even further afield.

I once moved to another country just before Christmas. It wasn’t my choice, rather it was the job that dragged me away at a time of year when I most need familiar places and people. Being in another country, where the residents spoke another language and celebrated the holidays differently, was hard; harder still was the time difference that prevented me from calling my family when I needed to the most.

If you find yourself away from those you love at holiday time, there are some things you can do to help get through the emotional distance and loss you’re experiencing. Here are just some suggestions to help you deal with the distance:

  1. Keep familiar things around you. Objects that remind you of home and what home means to you will help you feel more at home. For instance, I inherited my mother’s tree ornaments after she passed away; they always remind me of childhood Christmases when the whole family would be together. I took those ornaments with me to my new home and carried on the tradition, remembering my family as I hung each one. Some people may find this remembering difficult; if you do, then you may want to start your own traditions by possibly incorporating some of the local ways of celebrating.
  2. Invite people over. Being in a new city, state or country means that there are probably other people around who are also new to the area. Throw what I call an “orphan” dinner party; with orphan meaning that each attendee is away from family and friends. Offer each guest the opportunity to bring a friend, spouse, and their children. It’s pretty amazing to see how many other people are like you, and before you know it, you’ll have created your own family with whom you can always share holidays.
  3. Get out of the house. It’s pretty easy to feel sorry for yourself, staying inside the entire time, afraid that if you do go out, everyone who passes you by knows that you’re alone, pity in their eyes. Well, as much as that’s how it might feel, it couldn’t be further from the truth. Get outside. Go for a morning coffee or a walk along the waterfront or through a local park. Maybe see a movie or have lunch or dinner in a favorite restaurant. Talk to people. Try to enjoy the quiet and solitude. It’ll help get you out of your skin for a bit. And all of us can always use a bit of that.
  4. Make lots of phone calls. Reach out to people you know locally, and all your friends and family who are far away. Buy presents. Wrap them fondly. Mail them off with lots of love and know that you’ll be missed. Let people know that you’re feeling lonely; it’s okay.
  5. Rent sentimental movies. If you like the warmth that nostalgia indulgence brings, then rent some favorite movies, make some favorite snacks and let yourself feel what you’re feeling. If you aren’t the kind of person who enjoys nostalgia, rent some movies that will let you escape completely; escaping is fine. Each of us has our own way of dealing with difficult times.
  6. Play music that makes you feel good. Music is also an emotional memory transporter, taking us back to a favorite time and place.
  7. Go off the diet. As with every holiday, allow yourself to indulge a bit. Buy your favorite foods, and try to share them with others. If you’re in another country, and can’t find favorite items, ask friends or family members to ship you a care package. Nothing says home like comforting food.
  8. Check out your community. Every community celebrates the holidays differently. Make up a list of all the activities you’d like to do, find out where you can do them and when, they set out to discover your neighborhood. Or, check out the local newspaper or community bulletin board to see how people are celebrating, then make a date to go to at least two events. It’s a great way to begin feeling at home in your new space, while giving you a chance to meet new people.


To all of our friends, family, clients, vendors and colleagues.


Organizing your unpacking.

Unpacking, as far as I’m concerned, is the worst part of any move. A friend tried once to make me feel better about it by describing it like Christmas: all those packages waiting to be unopened, not knowing what they contain. Well, I do know what they contain – they contain stuff that has to be unwrapped, cleaned and put certain spots. Ugh. What’s fun about that?

So, if you’re like me, then packing can be a nightmare and you need to create a plan to get it done or it’ll never get done. You’ll end up having to sort through boxes six months from now, ones that you’ve stored in the spare bedroom, or the basement or the garage. Another ugh. The first rule of thumb, then, is, get organized. But how do you do that?


Time is Your Friend

My first golden rule of unpacking is, make sure you have time to do it! And I’m not talking about weekends or evenings, although for some people that will have to suffice. I’m talking about booking off enough time to unpack. If that means a week from your new job, then do it. If you have children, then plan to get a babysitter to take care of them during the day (preferably away from the home), so you can do what you need to do.

For those of you who can’t take time off (as in our last move), then you need to set yourself a schedule to get it done. I usually set a simple schedule, such as each member of the family must unpack three boxes per night – or something like that. Make it reasonable and doable, but also plan it so that the unpacking will be done before too long. If you’re working with children or teenagers, then you may want to build in an incentive, such as pizza night or movie night or time out after unpacking for a trip to the ice cream shop – something that will inspire everyone to reach their daily goal.

Save weekends for the harder boxes to unpack, such as dishes (that usually require washing) or the spice rack that needs to be organized or the garage items. Just make sure you book time off on the weekend, set chores that everyone can accomplish, then stick to the schedule. Again, build in rewards and incentives.


Unpack a Room at a Time

Now, this is usually the golden rule, simply because it’s better to have one room complete than to have three rooms half-done. What we usually do is confine the bedrooms to evening unpacking, so that each of us goes to our room and unpacks. This allows for the unpacking of everyone’s personal things and also gives each family member time to settle into their own spaces. This is especially important for children and teens. If your child is able to unpack their own stuff, let them and encourage them to make their space their own. This will help with the settling in process and make them feel more at home in the new place.

Large, multi-use rooms, I save for weekends. Again, this is assuming that you can’t take time off to unpack. On the weekends, I recommend that the entire family unpack one room or divide the members into smaller groups with each group tackling one space. This makes it a little more fun and manageable and allows the children to voice their opinion on where things should go. Again, this can build a sense of belonging to the new home and children will feel part of the process.


Essentials are Essential

In other articles, we mention the need for an essential box. Each member of the family should have one and they should be the first boxes that you unpack. This will not only help you organize your move – getting the essential items unpacked first – but will make your first few nights in your new home a little easier.

You can also mark other boxes with instructions, too, such as “open first” for items in the kitchen that you’ll need right away. I’ve even gone as far as tying a ribbon around a box to mark its importance. This helps when you have professional movers moving your things for you. A red ribbon is easy to spot, so you can quickly instruct the mover where that important box should go. I do this for kitchen and bathroom items – things that aren’t in my essential box, but are still items that I’ll need in the first day or so.

Other essentials, of course, are beds and linens. This should be one of the first things you put together to ensure a good nights’ rest. If you know that you’ll be arriving late, you may want to invest in an air bed – one that inflates quickly and easily so you can get some rest without a lot of effort.


Which Room is Unpacked First

I get this question a lot. I do recommend getting the kitchen unpacked first, after assembling beds and other key pieces of furniture. The kitchen is the most complicated and the one that is critical to structuring family life. And the faster you have the kitchen organized, the less money you’ll need to spend on take-out and pizza.

Next, I recommend getting bedrooms completed – at least ensuring that current seasonal clothes are unpacked and organized. Kids will be returning to school and you to work, so it’ll save a lot of time and frustration if everything you need is within easy reach.

Bathrooms are definitely next on my list. Of course, this is considering the fact that you would’ve packed the shower curtain, essential medication and supplies in your essential box. If you didn’t, then you’ll need to unpack some of the bathroom stuff before you finish the kitchen. Again, these aren’t rules, simply suggestions to get yourself organized.

Family room and media center: some people (like my husband) place more importance on this than the kitchen. And that’s okay, since it is a room where the family gathers and where you can rest after a long day of unpacking. We usually divide the initial chores – I take the kitchen and he takes the family room, making sure that the TV, stereo and DVD player are properly connected.

Now you should have an idea of what your unpacking might look like. Thinking about how you’re going to tackle it is really half the battle. Once you’ve planned it out, it doesn’t seem quite so bad, does it? Well, I’ll still never like to unpack, but I’m definitely getting better at dealing with it.


The benefits of portable storage.

The benefits of portable storage solutions are huge. Don’t take my word for it, just ask anyone who has utilized portable storage and they’ll share that the benefits are so significant that they’ll never go back to traditional storage. I’m often asked why someone would use portable storage over traditional storage options, and my answer is simple: Flexibility. In the text that follows I’ll share a few thoughts on the many benefits of today’s portable storage solutions.

Healthy industries evolve over time, and the storage business has made great strides in the last decade. While there is nothing wrong with traditional storage solutions, they simply don’t afford the benefits to the user that today’s portable storage solutions offer. Because the benefits of portable storage are almost too numerous to articulate given the space constraints associated with this medium, the following list discusses two of the most significant reasons for why you should consider portable storage options:

1. On-site Storage Options: Portability…Unlike traditional storage options where you must travel to your storage site for access to your items, with portable storage solutions you can have a container placed at the site of your choosing (home, business, etc.). This allows you easy access when and where you need it.
2. Better Access: We’ve already discussed the access benefits of having an on-site storage unit, but when you no longer have the need for on-site storage, you simply call your portable storage vendor and they’ll come pick it up. They will move it to any location you desire, or to one of their secure storage facilities. You can then have it delivered back to you when you need something, or you can visit the off-site storage location if you choose. Why wouldn’t someone want the flexibility that a portable storage solutions offers?

For more detailed information on the benefits of portable storage please call (310) 618-8120 and speak to a customer service rep for a quote.


What is “portable storage”? What is “container moving”?

If you want to save money on your move, but aren’t too excited about moving yourself, especially driving that big rental truck over a long distance or through a major city, then self-service moving might just be your best option.

It’s a pretty easy and simple idea. Once you’ve made arrangements with a company, they drop off the size or quantity of containers you’ll need to handle the amount of stuff you’re moving, leaving them for the time you need to pack and load. Some companies will drop off a 28-foot trailer, paying only for the space you use.

After the container(s) are dropped off at your home, you load them, lock them up and the company moves them to your new home. Or, if you prefer, intostorage. Most self-service companies offer storage options in case you’re waiting between moves. The containers are weather-resistant and are usually left on your front lawn or in the drive-way; in a spot that’s most convenient for you.

Once your stuff is moved, the containers are then delivered to your new home, where you unpack your own things.

By doing the loading and packing yourself, you can save money on hourly fees charged by local companies or be given a lower quote than most full-service moving companies. Again, the key is to compare prices, factor in your time and effort involved then decide which moving option is best for you.

Prices are usually based on the number of containers you use – or on the amount of trailer space – and the distance they have to travel. The price of a self-service move is assessed by the number of crates you use and how far you need them to go.

Most companies will include insurance in the price, while others may charge extra. Ask before you hire. Also, if you have valuables, you may want to purchase more. Again, ask the company how much insurance they provide, then decide if you should purchase more. The article,Should You Purchase Moving Insurance, will help you make that decision.

Just like hiring a moving company, make sure you research the companies before you sign a contract. And weigh all your options before you decide how to move; self-service container companies can sometimes be less pricey than moving yourself if you factor in all expenses you’ll incur for gas, mileage and peace of mind.  Call We Come 2U Storage at (310) 618-8120 for a portable storage quote or for container moving.


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